stuck

So here's where I get stuck. I believe the life I lead now is simply not good enough for me, and I deserve more. I don't mean that in a materialistic way, like I need to be able to buy more things, but in a spiritual sense. What always sticks me is the How of it all. So I know I want so much more in my life. I want control I want to dominate my own life. But how to get I get from the inertia I currently live in to the place I want to live in? In life I have found the best way to get from point A to B is the break the process into small doable steps. In this instance I can't see the first step. Of course the logical place to begin is getting a better job. That step has proven more difficult than I had expected. I look and search and get no where. I look only to get 1000 no thank yous. So I get frustrated and stop looking for a bit. I think this job is the first step in where I want to go, but so much stands in my way. I believe certain things only happen in life if they are supposed to. I ask myself if maybe this isn't happening because this isn't the first step I'm supposed to take. If its not, then what is? I don't know where to atep so I go nowhere leading only to greater frustration so I ponder some more and hope the answer presents itself to me. I can hope anyway. Any suggestions?