fruedian slip

So an interesting night at therapy with my oldest son. The main reason he sees a therapist is because of his ongoing issues with his dad. We were talking to his therapist about how he feels about his dad taking care of his girlfriends kids. When he started talking about it, he referred to her kids as Daddys new kids. He didn't even realize hed said it, and I looked at his therapist to see if she'd caught it too. She had. He has started to see his girlfriends kids as Daddys kids and he resents the hell out of him for taking care of them and ignoring them. I hadn't realized until tonight how deep his feelings went about it. He has a dad that has chosen someone else's kids over him. I knew it bothered him, of course but I didn't see before how deeply this had affected him. He called them Daddys Newer kids. This is the same guy who hasn't seen his kids in over two months. But he sees them every day. He seems to have forgotten they are not even his kids. Might as well be his kids. And once again I have to clean up daddys mess. It was the first time I'd heard Pat say something like that out loud. It would seem that boy has a lot bubbling just under the surface that he doesn't want to show. But getting it out was really good to hear him admit it. I can't help but wonder at what point he stopped seeing them as Her kids and started seeing them as Daddys kids. Gotta admit, it pisses me off too. I can't help but have evil thoughts towards my ex when he does stuff like this. Stuff exactly like his dad did to him. The irony's not lost on me there. But at least we found a crack in Pats shell and maybe we can widen that just a little next time. I can hope anyway.